Comments for Single Steve http://www.singlesteve.com Wed, 25 Jan 2012 08:32:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= Comment on Dear Eharmony, Fuck you. by corina http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/01/dear-eharmony-fuck-you/#comment-3258 corina Wed, 25 Jan 2012 08:32:12 +0000 http://www.singlesteve.com/?p=762#comment-3258 Love this!! It came up when I Googled "eharmony stage 1" haha!! I have 7 different "matches" that I answered their questions & had NO idea I was supposed to respond back with my own questions after answering to "move on"!! Love this!! It came up when I Googled “eharmony stage 1″ haha!! I have 7 different “matches” that I answered their questions & had NO idea I was supposed to respond back with my own questions after answering to “move on”!!

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]]> Comment on Dear Eharmony, Fuck you. by K31472 http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/01/dear-eharmony-fuck-you/#comment-3255 K31472 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 06:45:50 +0000 http://www.singlesteve.com/?p=762#comment-3255 I have had the exact same experience as you. Except all the matches I get have no pics. And the ones that do never respond to my questions I've sent. Huge waste of money!!! I have had the exact same experience as you. Except all the matches I get have no pics. And the ones that do never respond to my questions I’ve sent. Huge waste of money!!!

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]]> Comment on Best. First. Messages. Ever. by JAMES http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/03/best-first-messages-ever-2/#comment-3248 JAMES Tue, 24 Jan 2012 22:51:29 +0000 http://www.singlesteve.com/?p=872#comment-3248 I'm sorry Steve, but you've already been one upped on this one. May I preset to you, the online dating "artist:" http://i.imgur.com/YkAWT.jpg I’m sorry Steve, but you’ve already been one upped on this one. May I preset to you, the online dating “artist:”

http://i.imgur.com/YkAWT.jpg

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]]> Comment on Dear Eharmony, Fuck you. by JAMES http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/01/dear-eharmony-fuck-you/#comment-3247 JAMES Tue, 24 Jan 2012 21:45:41 +0000 http://www.singlesteve.com/?p=762#comment-3247 Oh man Steve, what a great article! Funniest thing I have read in a while. I'm a grizzled eharmony vet. My tour of duty of duty has lasted 2 years. I will tell you what led me here: Today I was going through my own pathetic list of non-responding women under the "communicating" tab and closing them out (if they don't respond in a month, they ain't gonna respond). So I click on another profile to close it, and I see she added a complaint under "additional information." She said something like: "...and I don't understand why I'm only getting these 'silly questions' and not real messages." Some small part of me lost it when I read that. Do women really think that each man should write out personalized novels to her? I think most guys who get into online dating try that at first. They think, "man, this girl is the PERFECT match! We like the same stuff, we have the same ideas! I'm going to write her a really great message!" And you do. And nothing happens - she doesn't respond, at all, and you never, ever find out why. After a while you start to realize the futility of dumping energy into these messages and just stick to the canned questions or icebreakers. It's so bad that on free sites like "plenty of fish" women add things to their profile like "please put the word PEAR into the subject of your email so I know that it's a real message." You see, men have taken to spamming as a tactic to get around women ignoring messages. It makes sense - why waste all that time? Just write one clever canned message, send it to every single woman on the site, and see who responds. That's called fishing with a net!! So women get bombarded with bullshit and decent guys get lost in the shuffle. As an aside, that is why eharmony is at least better than free sites - everyone has some skin (ie money) in the game so both sexes take it a bit more seriously. A bit. I'm a decent looking guy (not the tall-dark-chiseled face type women seem to like, but far from ugly), physically fit, intelligent, successful (my job is a project manager), well traveled, well read. On paper, I'm what women want, but on eharmony? Not a chance. I have had some dates over the two years, and one semi-promising fling that fizzled out, but on the whole I was only ever able to get women that I was marginally interested in to respond. The profiles that really excited me, the ones I thought were the best matches, I never get a response from. The #1 most common reaction to my 5 questions from women is... nothing. They don't close me, but they don't respond. I don't really understand this reaction. Isn't it one or the other, you like me or you don't? Or maybe these women really are expecting personalized messages...? Women, for the love of god, please start making eye contact and smiling at guys you see in real life. Most women where I live seem to TRY to avoid all contact with men when they are out and about. They just scream "don't even think about talking to me you CREEPS!" with their body language. How it's supposed to work is that you smile at me, then I come over and talk to you, we flirt a bit, I ask you out, then we live happily ever after. Instead, we are all stuck in eharmony HELL because you refuse to play by the rules!!! /rant Oh man Steve, what a great article! Funniest thing I have read in a while.

I’m a grizzled eharmony vet. My tour of duty of duty has lasted 2 years. I will tell you what led me here: Today I was going through my own pathetic list of non-responding women under the “communicating” tab and closing them out (if they don’t respond in a month, they ain’t gonna respond). So I click on another profile to close it, and I see she added a complaint under “additional information.” She said something like: “…and I don’t understand why I’m only getting these ‘silly questions’ and not real messages.” Some small part of me lost it when I read that. Do women really think that each man should write out personalized novels to her? I think most guys who get into online dating try that at first. They think, “man, this girl is the PERFECT match! We like the same stuff, we have the same ideas! I’m going to write her a really great message!” And you do. And nothing happens – she doesn’t respond, at all, and you never, ever find out why. After a while you start to realize the futility of dumping energy into these messages and just stick to the canned questions or icebreakers.

It’s so bad that on free sites like “plenty of fish” women add things to their profile like “please put the word PEAR into the subject of your email so I know that it’s a real message.” You see, men have taken to spamming as a tactic to get around women ignoring messages. It makes sense – why waste all that time? Just write one clever canned message, send it to every single woman on the site, and see who responds. That’s called fishing with a net!! So women get bombarded with bullshit and decent guys get lost in the shuffle. As an aside, that is why eharmony is at least better than free sites – everyone has some skin (ie money) in the game so both sexes take it a bit more seriously. A bit.

I’m a decent looking guy (not the tall-dark-chiseled face type women seem to like, but far from ugly), physically fit, intelligent, successful (my job is a project manager), well traveled, well read. On paper, I’m what women want, but on eharmony? Not a chance. I have had some dates over the two years, and one semi-promising fling that fizzled out, but on the whole I was only ever able to get women that I was marginally interested in to respond. The profiles that really excited me, the ones I thought were the best matches, I never get a response from.

The #1 most common reaction to my 5 questions from women is… nothing. They don’t close me, but they don’t respond. I don’t really understand this reaction. Isn’t it one or the other, you like me or you don’t?

Or maybe these women really are expecting personalized messages…?

Women, for the love of god, please start making eye contact and smiling at guys you see in real life. Most women where I live seem to TRY to avoid all contact with men when they are out and about. They just scream “don’t even think about talking to me you CREEPS!” with their body language. How it’s supposed to work is that you smile at me, then I come over and talk to you, we flirt a bit, I ask you out, then we live happily ever after. Instead, we are all stuck in eharmony HELL because you refuse to play by the rules!!!

/rant

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]]> Comment on Dear Eharmony, Fuck you. by See? eHarmony is a scam « Misadventures in Cleveland Dating http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/01/dear-eharmony-fuck-you/#comment-3183 See? eHarmony is a scam « Misadventures in Cleveland Dating Wed, 18 Jan 2012 04:24:07 +0000 http://www.singlesteve.com/?p=762#comment-3183 [...] doing my little review of online dating sites yesterday, I came across this guy’s blog article about how much eHarmony sucks.  He couldn’t have said it better when it comes to [...] [...] doing my little review of online dating sites yesterday, I came across this guy’s blog article about how much eHarmony sucks.  He couldn’t have said it better when it comes to [...]

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]]> Comment on Dear Eharmony, Fuck you. by Summer http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/01/dear-eharmony-fuck-you/#comment-3182 Summer Wed, 18 Jan 2012 03:58:04 +0000 http://www.singlesteve.com/?p=762#comment-3182 Love your rant. I experienced all the "dead profiles" myself. In fact a solid 75 percent of my matches didn't even have their profiles filled out aside from a single sentence. They browsed during a free communication weekend never to return. I'm guessing the bulk of my matches were simply smart enough not to be suckered into signing up for an account! Thing is, I'm an attractive girl... I doubt I'd have issues with non-responders, but it was constant. So... it's not you! And I'm shocked at how many matches you received. I've had weeks where I only got like two or three total... and they were all inactive! Love your rant. I experienced all the “dead profiles” myself. In fact a solid 75 percent of my matches didn’t even have their profiles filled out aside from a single sentence. They browsed during a free communication weekend never to return. I’m guessing the bulk of my matches were simply smart enough not to be suckered into signing up for an account! Thing is, I’m an attractive girl… I doubt I’d have issues with non-responders, but it was constant. So… it’s not you! And I’m shocked at how many matches you received. I’ve had weeks where I only got like two or three total… and they were all inactive!

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]]> Comment on Dear Eharmony, Fuck you. by Andrew Franc http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/01/dear-eharmony-fuck-you/#comment-3151 Andrew Franc Sat, 14 Jan 2012 02:55:29 +0000 http://www.singlesteve.com/?p=762#comment-3151 well my life has been upside down and i decided to go to eharmony and u know. Hmmm ....LOL .. i have found 0 matches. great site, really really great site. i trully hate social sites like fb. so Kudos steve. trying this but its pure fail , so im social but man i dont think ill try this sht again. steve u are a bro. well my life has been upside down and i decided to go to eharmony and u know. Hmmm ….LOL .. i have found 0 matches. great site, really really great site. i trully hate social sites like fb. so Kudos steve. trying this but its pure fail , so im social but man i dont think ill try this sht again. steve u are a bro.

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]]> Comment on Dear Eharmony, Fuck you. by Dawn http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/01/dear-eharmony-fuck-you/#comment-3139 Dawn Fri, 13 Jan 2012 05:30:39 +0000 http://www.singlesteve.com/?p=762#comment-3139 I agree, Eharmony sucks. How degrading is that? GAWD! I want my $$ back! I agree, Eharmony sucks. How degrading is that? GAWD! I want my $$ back!

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]]> Comment on Dear Eharmony, Fuck you. by M http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/01/dear-eharmony-fuck-you/#comment-3126 M Thu, 12 Jan 2012 00:32:51 +0000 http://www.singlesteve.com/?p=762#comment-3126 It's not just men that have these issues with eharmony, women get them too. I signed up a couple of months ago, hoping to find a nice guy since my schedule is always packed (work, school etc.), so I don't really have time to go out and meet people, let alone a guy. I'm 26 years old by the way - I don't think I look "hot" or anything but I always get compliments from people, men and women, on how beautiful I look. I used to be a model when I was in my teens so I don't I'm so ugly that no guy wants to chat. SO, I thought maybe I'd have a shot at this online dating thing - I wasn't looking to meet "hot" rich men, I actually like geeky-type of guys but I had no luck at all. There were several men who I was connecting with through the GC but once we hit OC,POOF! Gone! I sent my questions to about 15-20 guys over the past couple of months and I've only received 1 reply. ONE!!! I've also been using match with no luck either. I think I'm just going to give up on this whole online dating thing. I'm thinking it might be some ethnicity thing because I'm mixed and maybe guys don't like that? It’s not just men that have these issues with eharmony, women get them too. I signed up a couple of months ago, hoping to find a nice guy since my schedule is always packed (work, school etc.), so I don’t really have time to go out and meet people, let alone a guy. I’m 26 years old by the way – I don’t think I look “hot” or anything but I always get compliments from people, men and women, on how beautiful I look. I used to be a model when I was in my teens so I don’t I’m so ugly that no guy wants to chat.

SO, I thought maybe I’d have a shot at this online dating thing – I wasn’t looking to meet “hot” rich men, I actually like geeky-type of guys but I had no luck at all. There were several men who I was connecting with through the GC but once we hit OC,POOF! Gone! I sent my questions to about 15-20 guys over the past couple of months and I’ve only received 1 reply. ONE!!! I’ve also been using match with no luck either. I think I’m just going to give up on this whole online dating thing.

I’m thinking it might be some ethnicity thing because I’m mixed and maybe guys don’t like that?

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]]> Comment on Dear Eharmony, Fuck you. by Dear eHarmony, Fuck You « Looking At You Doesn't Make Me Gay http://www.singlesteve.com/2011/01/dear-eharmony-fuck-you/#comment-3109 Dear eHarmony, Fuck You « Looking At You Doesn't Make Me Gay Tue, 10 Jan 2012 21:05:09 +0000 http://www.singlesteve.com/?p=762#comment-3109 [...] a guy named Steve who has (what I think) is a dating blog (and who seems much angrier than me).  Here you can see how Steve does his thing.  The sad news for me is that Steve is FAR more successful [...] [...] a guy named Steve who has (what I think) is a dating blog (and who seems much angrier than me).  Here you can see how Steve does his thing.  The sad news for me is that Steve is FAR more successful [...]

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